Don’t be mad. It’s not worth it. You can walk around with your head down and stew about whatever, but it won’t make the situation better, and it won’t make you feel better. Ask yourself “why am I really mad?” What is the true reason? Chances are that if you’ve been angry long enough you’ve lost the reason you were mad in the first place.
People stay mad for various reasons. They justify grudges with moral reasoning. Perhaps it makes them feel powerful or more in control. Perhaps it’s just an act and they feel obligated to feel “angry” about something. Regardless, anger is never something that should be allowed to last. In the words of Yoda, “anger leads to hate, hate leads to suffering.”
The problem with anger is that it is often misdirected, and it is usually not the correct emotional response. It is easier to be mad at a specific person or group of people than about an actual problem. On the same token, anger is the easier emotion to jump to when a better response is empathy or at least sympathy and optimism in regard to one’s own problems. There is ALWAYS a light at the end of the tunnel. It could always be worse, and a little optimism makes everything better.
Treat life like a challenge that can be overcome. Don’t pity yourself or bring yourself down and don’t display your suffering for the whole world to see. This doesn’t mean you can’t ever talk about your problems, but don’t make a show of them either. It doesn’t get you any closer to solving them and it probably won’t make you too many friends.
If something needs to be fixed, fix it. If it can’t be fixed, so be it. That’s life. Look up at the sky and say “what a nice color blue.” Listen to the street performers play their music and say “what a nice tune.” Take or make time to read or write stories. Sing your favorite songs while you walk to work or to your next class. Life is short, so we ought to make the best of it.
As always, I write these kinds of posts for myself as much as anyone else. Nobody’s perfect, but everyone Is capable of joy and love.
Have a nice day, peeps! ❤